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Me in 2018 

Eric & Patti
My name is Eric Pence, and I am a husband, a father, and retired (I turned 70 in 2018—I guess that makes me old?) after a very successful and satisfying career. I married Patti in 1979 and we have two grown sons, both college graduates, who live far away (New York City and Tapei, Taiwan). We live in Hingham, MA, a Boston suburb on the coast on Otis Hill (see Our house for details and views or my Hingham page). Before I retired in 2018 I worked in the Financial District in Boston and took the commuter boat from Hingham to Boston to my job every day for 35 years (an excellent commute). I worked in Boston and my last job for 24 years was at Safety Insurance in this building, the last 15 as a web programmer.

Our son Ben has changed his name to Ulysse (that's pronounced "you lease"). He is 36 and I guess he can do what he wants. We still call him Ben.

I see these posts about what you have to do when you reach 40, but I am over 70 and wish I had seen them years ago. My parents and in-laws are deceased so Patti and I are in the oldest generation of our families now. This is weird. Our 2 adult sons don't live with us, so our current family is Patti and me, our 2 dogs, Casey & Quinn and our cat, Pepper (we had 2 cats but Mandy died in 2018 at age 17). Since I am retired I don't leave the house too often except to walk the dogs twice a day and take the trash to the dump weekly. Only Patti and I live here now (without kids) so our lives are pretty simple. When the stay-home lifestyle occurred during the Coronavirus pandemic I was lucky to be retired and I didn't have to make major adjustments. I didn't have to worry about losing my job or learning new skills like working from home (which I have done) as many of my colleagues did. My life didn't change much except I made fewer visits to the supermarket (sometimes in senior hours because I am over 65). Patti and I have both been vaccinated (and we both got boosters and I got a bunch of those at home COVID-19 test kits), so that is 1 less thing we have to worry about.

After graduating from high school in 1966 in Payette, Idaho, because of my high SAT math scores I started out majoring in Mechanical Engineering at University of Idaho (my home state college, where both my parents had graduated), but after 2 years I knew that wasn't what I wanted to do. (Fortunately, I missed this excitement by a few years!)  For the next 5 years I lived in Seattle (and worked at Boeing and other manufacturing jobs because I had learned to read blueprints as an Engineering major in college) and had long hair and smoked pot and tried hallucinogenic drugs. Because I wasn't going to college I lost my 2-S student-deferment and got drafted, and because of my beliefs (I was very anti-war!) I was a draft resister. I took up guitar when I was in college and had started playing jazz, so I went back to college in 1973 to study music at Berklee College of Music in Boston (I read Downbeat, a jazz magazine, regularly, and Berklee was listed often as a school that a lot of famous musicians had gone to), but after a couple of years at Berklee I had a summer job that paid pretty well and I got tired of being a student pauper and I discovered computers and decided that "computer programming" looked like a better way to make a living than being a musician. So I went to several more schools in Metro-Boston (including M.I.T. and Northeastern) and eventually graduated in 1983 and had a great career. Initially I commuted by car to my jobs, including driving up 128 to a job at ADP in Waltham, but for the last 35 years, when I was working in the Boston Financial District, I commuted from Hingham to Boston by commuter boat. Like most programmers in the early 80s I started out working on a large "mainframe" computer system shared by many users on terminals, but living in a modern world that became Internet-based this eventually evolved into web development, which I did for the last 15 years of my working life at this location.


Us in 1990
I met Patti in 1977 when she had just bought a house, a 3-bedroom cape in Weymouth (a Boston suburb) and I still lived in an apartment in Boston, but I moved in with her in 1978 and we got married in 1979. Here's Patti walking her dog at Whitman's Pond at the end of our street. When our youngest son graduated from high school in 2007 and went to college in Washington, DC (Alex was already in college in New York City), we stayed in our large, 3-story, 10-room Victorian house where we had raised the boys for several years before we decided to downsize and bought our current house, which is relatively smaller but still large (3 bedrooms, 3½ baths). I am retired now and spend most of my time here in Hingham and I don't miss commuting (by boat) into the city every day. For 35 years my daily routine would consist of—get up, drive to the Hingham Shipyard, take a commuter boat to Boston (see photos), work all day, take the boat back to Hingham, and drive home. Since I retired I am glad those days are over and my life is much simpler now. I became friends with people I saw every day on the boat but sadly we haven't stayed in touch since I am not on the boat anymore. Here's the building where I worked in Boston, where it says 20 (the address was "20 Custom House Street", which was a side street so everybody used the front entrance to the building on Broad Street shown in the photo).

I've been financially comfortable for most of my life. I grew up with college-graduate parents (dad was a banker and mother was a teacher) who made good salaries and I started college, mostly on my parents' money (and finished college on my money). In my adult life I've had well-paying jobs, and after I married Patti I came into some family wealth (her dad had a chain of supermarkets), and in my jobs in programming I've earned a lot of money (and Patti had graduted from college and was a Nurse Practitioner), so money was never a problem for us. We've put 2 kids through college and now that I'm retired I am comfortable.
So that decribes my financial life.


Our house
The big event in our lives right now is our new house (we moved here in 2016 so I guess it's not "new" anymore). It has 2 garages for our cars and the Otis Hill location is great!  We lived for 34 years in our previous house where we raised the boys, but after they graduated from college, started their adult lives, and moved to other cities, we were "empty nesters" for 8 years so we sold our 10-room Victorian and we bought and rebuilt a smaller house and after we remodeled it it was a new house and we moved there in 2016.  Because we had an architect when we remodeled we made this house exactly like we wanted and I hope this will probably be where we stay for the rest of our lives. We are still in Hingham, where we have lived since 1982. We have owned 3 suburban houses on the South Shore.
(Strangely, we live less than 2 miles from our previous house but since we sold it in 2016 as I write this in 2023 we have never been back.)

Previous house

Patti and I have been homeowners since 1977 but I realize that is not true for everyone. One thing I love about owning my own house is having a driveway to park my car in (and a garage so I don't have to shovel snow off in the winter). When I lived in Seattle in the 60s I always had a car, but when I was in college in the 70s and lived in apartments in Boston I didn't have a car, and took the subway or rode my bicycle everywhere. Since 1977 I've always owned a car and that is something I couldn't live without. For most of my adult life I have commuted to Boston and worked in the Financial District. I did this every day for years and at lunchtime I walked a 3-mile walk with my colleague (and very good friend) Margarette. I retired in 2018 after working for most of my life, and like most people I grew up thinking 70 was elderly, but I am not elderly. I am always surprised when I see a reflection of this gray-haired guy in a mirror or window becasuse I don't feel any older than I did 30 years ago and I walk the dogs twice a day on 1-2 mile walks with no problem. I've stayed physically active (mostly weekly tennis and daily walking and I used to be a runner), and I have tried to stay current with the new technology that has evolved in my lifetime, like the Internet and smartphones. My current car (a VW Tiguan) is keyless (I just have to have the car key on me to operate the car so it never leaves my pocket) and our house is keyless (the front door is locked with a combination keypad), so I don't need to put keys into locks in my daily life.

Having a website is the definitive expression of many of my interests, and I enjoy it so much that working as a web programmer made me feel like I got paid to have fun (see my Confucius slogan at the top)!  I've had several smartphones and I got a new computer in 2019 and I am trying to keep up with the new technology.

Among my many interests are travel, walking, music, cities, and maps, and I expound on these things on various pages on my website.


A little background info
  My parents met in college and both graduated in 1941—my mother became a teacher, and my dad went into the army. After the war he married my mother, went to Stanford Law School, and they lived in the San Francisco Bay Area. When my mother got pregnant in 1946 with my older brother David (who died of early-onset Alzheimer's at age 66 in 2012), my dad dropped out of law school and they moved back to his hometown Payette, Idaho, which they thought was a safer place to raise kids (that is where I grew up!). My dad became a banker, which he did for his whole career until he retired at age 65. My mother had stopped teaching to raise kids (3 boys, I am the middle one) but returned to teaching when the kids were older. She also

My mother
retired at 65, something they still did in the 1970s (I retired at age 70 in 2018). My parents moved to Boise in the 1970s and my dad worked at the headquarters of the bank and my mother taught in Kuna. They would travel a lot in their retirement and sometimes stop in Boston (I came here for college and never left) to see us on their way to Europe, and we would sometimes visit them in Idaho. After my father died in 1993 I made multiple trips to Boise every year to visit my mother until she died in 2017 at age 98. My youger brother, Ed, lives in Los Angeles and is also retired and never married. He lives with his partner/girlfriend, Aganaze.

I grew up in the small town of Payette, Idaho and lived there until I went to college in 1966 at the University of Idaho in Moscow (aerial view) for 2 years, then lived in Seattle for 5 years (where I had long hair and was a quasi hippie, attending many rock concerts, weekly in Eagles Auditorium, and 2 outdoor rock festivals in 1968 and 1969, and went to many antiwar rallies and peace marches and was a draft resister in 1969), then returned to college in 1973 in Boston (I finally graduated in 1983 - I've gone to many colleges in Boston that you can read about on my career page). I married Patti in 1979, and she got a Bachelor's from B.U. and a Master's from UMass and is a Nurse Practitioner. We have owned 3 houses in metro-Boston since the 1970s. Our 2 sons have graduated from college, Alex with Master's and Ben with a Bachelor's. Alex lives in New York City and Ben, has lived in Taiwan for several years.


Events in my lifetime
  There have been several very memorable national events that have occured in my life. I saw a Facebook posting that asked where you were when you heard about the Kennedy assassination. I guess I could ask that same thing here.
1963 - JFK assassination  –   I was in high school (10th grade), standing in a line at the lunchroom when I heard about it—school closed and we were sent home.
We watched TV for days and actually saw the assassination of Oswald live as it happened.
1968 - MLK and RFK assassinations  –   We lost some great leaders this year, Martin Luther King, Jr. in April and Robert F. Kennedy in June.
(Was 1968 America's Bloodiest Year in Politics?!!!)
1969 - I became a draft resister  –   I was 21 and living in Seattle.
I had dropped out of college and lost my 2-S student deferment draft classification (this was during the Vietnam War), and I refused induction into the army when I got drafted.
1969 - Apollo 11 moon landing  –   I was 21—my buddy, Rainmar, and I watched it on a color TV at a house we were house-sitting in Seattle for his friends who were on vacation. I think I was tripping on acid.
Shockingly, there are people who don't believe this ever happened.
1969 - Woodstock music festival  –   I was 21 and living in Seattle.
I didn't attend but went to the Sky River Rock Festival outside Seattle in 1968 & 1969.
1982 - Chicago Tylenol murders  –   The victims had all taken Tylenol-branded acetaminophen capsules that had been laced with potassium cyanide.
This incident inspired the pharmaceutical, food, and consumer product industries to develop tamper-resistant packaging, such as induction seals.
These can be a pain to remove, but better SAFE than SORRY.
1986 - Space Shuttle Challenger disaster  –   I was 38 and working in an office in Cambridge, MA.
Somebody in my office was monitoring the takeoff of the Challenger and reacted loudly when it exploded.
This was caused by the failure of O-ring seals in a joint in the Space Shuttle's right solid rocket booster (SRB)
2001 - 9/11 Terrorist attacks  –   I was 53 and working in an office in Boston and my mother (in Idaho) called me to tell me what had happened, so I might have been the first in the office to know, but the Internet traffic was so heavy and slow you couldn't get to any news sites.
Boston was evacuated and I had to take a commuter boat home at 11:00am (special boats where put on to operate outside normal commuting times).
The commuter boat I took to work in Boston every day passed by the Boston Logan airport around the time the 2 planes took off that flew to New York and hit the towers, so I may have seen them fly over.
I had friends in New York City and Washington, DC, but fortunately I didn't lose anybody I knew that day. My New York buddy worked in the WTC in 1993 when the bomb went off in the basement garage, but he was no longer there in 2001.
I actually had been to the Windows on the World (Wikipedia) viewing area of the North Tower before the towers came down.
2003 - Space Shuttle Columbia disaster  –   The Space Shuttle Columbia disintegrated as it reentered the atmosphere, killing all seven crew members. This was caused because during the launch a piece of foam insulation broke off from the external tank and struck the left wing of the orbiter.
After the disaster, Space Shuttle flight operations were suspended for more than two years, as they had been after the Challenger disaster, and the International Space Station relied entirely on the Russian Space Corporation.

Now many adults were very young or not born yet when some of these things happened. In 2019 I saw TV coverage of the 50-year anniversary of the moon landing and though I was an adult in my 20s at the time and witnessed it on TV and remember it, the TV personalities on the coverage show were 30-something and this event occured before they were born. It must be interesting to be born after such significant things happened. High technology evolved in my lifetime and I remember the early days of computers. Now it is everywhere and like everybody I take it for granted. I can do Google search on my phone which is in my pocket. I recently learned that they are going to start teaching cursive handwriting again. I wondered how people who did not know cursive wrote their signatures on things.


Some links . . .

MY_WTC – I posted this 2000 family photo to this website (showing the WTC towers the year before they came down)
Special songs – I was telling someone about songs that were special to Patti and me back in the 70s and decided to share them on a webpage
Cars I've owned – I thought this was an amusing way to express my car history

YouTube videos

Stanley Clarke - School Days – I made this in 2006 from a DVD I own
The Road To Perdition – my friend Jim's video of their dog Lucy being wrongly impounded in 2008 when visiting their beach home in Clinton, CT (great song, Jim!)

Facebook

My Facebook profile – I joined in 2009—more bloggish than my website, with frequent updates



Cute stuff

    I wasn't sure where to include this but I couldn't resist putting in on my website.

For some reason my wife Patti took this picture, probably in the 70s, showing a gas pump with the price of gas in those days. 34¢ a gallon but I remember 25¢ a gallon when I started driving in the 60s.  
You can really express yourself with a great bumper sticker. My personal favorite is which I put on my car.



Horrible diseases
  Some people we know have died of horrible diseases. I know science is working on cures but they cannot come soon enough!
  • Coronavirus (COVID-19)
    First of all let me say that Patti and I have each received 2 Moderna vaccine shots at Harbor Health Community Health Center, where she works in Boston, and we both have received boosters so we are fully vaccinated. When the Coronavirus pandemic occurred (I retired in 2018 before all this happened) our 30-something kids who live hundreds of miles away in New York City reminded us we are in the high-risk group age-wize. We video chatted with them on Zoom and I'm sure this reassured them that we are OK. They paid us visits which was also very enjoyable. This is the first time I've experienced being a "baby-boomer" was a disadvantage. Staying home and not venturing out is very weird (I only walk the dogs around the neighborhood twice a day—Casey and Quinn—and listen to music on my smartphone). Now we buy our groceries at stores that deliver, like Whole Foods, or stores that have curb-side pickup where you place your order online and they bring it out to your car. I just read an article that staying home is not safe for everybody. I guess if you have threats at home you lose your escape to school or work. Fortunately this is not the case for me. Staying home is safe, but a little boring. They are banning reusable shopping bags, and one friend says where he lives open businesses won't handle paper money or coins, only credit cards. We did have visits from both our boys in May so it was not totally a "stay-at-home-alone" experience.

    In September 2022 I received another Covid booster (my third) and a Flu vaccine but my VAX records do not show this yet
    My VAX records – I am fully vaccinated for COVID-19

  • Akzheimer's
    David Pence, my older brother, died in 2012 of early-onset Alzheimer's at age 66. When he was in his mid-50s and working for the Census Bureau in Washington, DC, where he was involved in business surveys, he found he was not able to function 100%, so he was tested and found he had Alzheimer's disease. David was married and had 2 grown kids not living at home anymore. He took an early retirement but got bored at home, so he took part-time jobs at a Safeway supermarket demoing new products where he wore a chef's hat and did little sales pitches to customers. One time a customer remarked to him that he had previously said the same thing to him and David said, "You'll have to excuse me. My memory is not good and I don't remember you because I have Alzheimer's." I always admired him because he wasn't afraid to publicly admit it. He seemed to function pretty normally, but his mental abilities started diminishing and I remember once when we were in a restaurant and the waiter brought the plates to the table, even though he had a plate of food in front of him his wife, Peggy, had to say, "OK, David, you can start eating now." I saw David and his family on business trips I made to Washington. One time when we were visiting him at his home in Virginia and we were reminiscing about our childhoods he said, "Let me tell you something my brother, Eric, did one time." I realized he was just being friendly and social with someone but didn't know who I was. His driver's license was revoked because even though he could drive his car he got lost getting home, even in his neighborhood. After that he eventally went to assisted living and he eventually reached a vegetative state and he died.

  • ALS (Lou Gehrig's disease)
    Daniel Mulhaney, a good friend, died in 2014 of ALS in his home in Seattle. Daniel was a college friend of my brother's when they were both freshmen at the University of Washington in Seattle in 1964. I got to know him when I lived in Seattle (1968-1973) and Patti and I got to know Daniel and his wife Pherron and their kids, who are adults now. His daughter Michaela went to college at Northeastern University in Boston. We visted them in Seattle shortly before his death and he had pretty advanced ALS and couldn't talk anymore but he could move one finger to press a key on a keyboard that would play a prerecorded response to a question. Dan was a Seattleite, and I went to his wedding to Pherron on the Space Needle.

  • Pancreatic cancer
    Ed Rosenfield, Patti's brother, died in 2015 of pancreatic cancer. Patti grew up with Ed and I knew him and his wife, Andi, and daughter, Carli, for years. He was my best man at our wedding in 1979. Ed and Andi lived in Boca Raton, FL, and we were at the hospital in Florida in 2015 where he had gone for tests, and he died unexpectedly. He graduated from Boston University in Boston but this was before I met Patti so I didn't know him yet. After he graduated from college Ed took over running the family supermarket business and was a successful real estate entrepreneur, and he left us some money that we have used for traveling.


Removed pages
  I just lost interest in some pages and don't intend to update them anymore. I didn't delete the pages, just removed the links to them on the menu bar of the main page and stopped updating them. You can still go to those pages.


My new computer
  I got a new desktop computer in October, 2019, from RGB Computer Solutions on Station Street in Hingham. It is an "All-in-One," meaning the computer case and system components are built into the back of the monitor so that the entire PC is contained all in one unit (no separate box or tower).


My new computer
  • 24" monitor
  • Intel Core i5 processor
  • 12 GB of RAM
  • 1-terabyte solid-state hard drive
  • Wireless keyboard, wireless mouse
  • It came with Windows 10 and I put Classic Shell on it to emulate the XP Start Menu
  • I have upgraded to Windows 11


Current desktop

Since I took that photo showing my computer I've replaced Paris in the desktop background image with this view of Hingham Harbor,
showing Otis Hill in center, where our house is located and Boston in the background.
I am pleased with how fast it is!

I had to do a lot of configuring to get this computer to behave the way my last one did, including setting up the tools to manage my website and my music which I put on my phone. I succeeded!  I use Firefox as the primary browser on my desktop and laptop and I have them syncronized so they both have the same bookmarks and add-ons. (I had Firefox on my PC at work synced when I was still working.) I took my last computer to the electronic drop-off area at the dump (but first I disabled the hard-drive).

I previously had a Pentium computer with Windows XP that I got in 2009. It had a 250 GB hard drive that was always getting filled up. (I also have a Windows 10 laptop but the desktop is my main computer.)
Patti has an I-Pad on our kitchen table so I needed to get a tablet. I got a Samsung Galaxy tablet to replace my laptop.
I know Microsoft had discontinued XP and didn't support it anymore, and I kept getting messages that things couldn't run on it, but I still used it until I finally got tired of the messages and couldn't upgrade things anymore.

Our computer history . . .
In 1988 we got our first home PC, a DOS 286, that had a 32 MB hard drive that I thought was plenty big.
My kids, who were born in the 80s, grew up with there always being a computer in the house, and they got their own computers when they were quite young.
In 1992 I got my next computer—a 486 with Windows 3.1 that had a 250 MB hard-drive that I though was huge!
I put Windows 95 on this one when it came out, ultimately upgrading to Windows 98, and then Windows 2000.
In 2003 I got a PC with Windows XP on it.
I had that computer until I got my current one in 2019.


Wireless charging pad
  I keep one of these in my closet and lay my phone on it to charge at night when I'm sleeping. No plugging in required. I start out each day with a fully charged phone. Patti also has a couple of these, one for her phone and one for her earpods.

Yootech Wireless Charger

Our son Ben turned me on to this. It works fine on my Samsung Android, but I've heard it doesn't on older iPhones, but Apple fixed this on the newer ones. (Patti has a new iPhone.)



Digital Indoor Outdoor Thermometer
  I always like to know the current outside temperature so I know how to dress when I go out, so I keep a couple of these mounted on walls—one where I can see it from the table I sit at to eat and one next to the coat closet near the door to go outside. This has a unit that you mount outside the house and one that gets the temperature using WiFi and displays it.

ThermPro digital thermometer



My family
My family of origin
 
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  The boys

My mother

My dad

Brother David

Brother Ed
  I didn't grow up fantasizing about getting married and having kids, but it happened in a perfectly natural way and I am sure glad it did. I couldn't imagine life being any other way. Go below to read about the boys.


Eric & Patti
I am retired, and my wife, Patti, is still working as a Nurse Practitioner at Harbor Health which has several locations in Boston. Primarily she works at Neponset Health Center, but she also works at another Harbor Health location, Geiger Gibson, which was the first community health center in the country. She graduated from Boston University in 1979 (the year we got we married) and was an R.N. at Planned Parenthood until she went back to school at UMass Boston and got her Master's becoming a Nurse Practitioner in 2001. We are the proud parents of two grown sons in their thirties, both college graduates, and we have been "empty-nesters" since 2007, when our youngest son graduated from high school and left for college, so we gave up our bigger house (a 3-story, 10-room, 5-bedroom Victorian) where the boys were raised and bought a smaller house in 2015, remodeled for a year (and made it bigger), and moved there in 2016. Before I retired in 2018 I had a great career with the skills I learned in school. We live in Hingham (a Boston suburb), Massachusetts (see Our house), a coastal community on the South Shore of Metro-Boston, and for most of my career I took a commuter boat from Hingham to my jobs in Boston.

I'm so glad Patti and I met and had a relationship in the 1970s before email and texting and social media (and I love those now!), where we really got to know each other in person the old fashioned way, with socializing and dating and eventually living together. Getting married and becoming a father were the biggest adjustments I've ever made in my life but I couldn't imagine life being any other way! I get so much pleasure and experiences of pride, and it just continues and continues as my family opens new doors. Our sons have traveled the world, lived in other countries, and had many interesting experiences in places we've never been, and we've taken some trips with them!

Our wedding – July 29, 1979
 

The Vale
For our wedding in 1979 Patti and I rented an antique house in Waltham (a Boston suburb) named "The Vale" (the Lyman Estate). We had previously been to a wedding in this beautiful house in the fall, and decided that it was where we wanted to have our wedding, but when we got married in July the temperatures were in the 90s, and we couldn't use the unair-conditioned house for much more than a setting for photos. All wedding activities were outside under a big canvas tent. "The Europeans," a British film starring Lee Remick, was filmed at The Vale (this was released in 1979 so it was probably filmed not long before our July wedding).

The Lyman Estate (The "Vale"), Waltham MA – a couple married at The Vale in 2003 took these photos


   

A quick family summary:

   First Dad and Mom . . .    We are very proud of our 2 grown sons, who have graduated from college (Alex with Master's) and have happy and successful adult lives. Alex was married for while but is divorced now.
  
2020 photos

  At home we have a cat, Pepper (born in 2005), a Labradoodle dog, Casey (born 2012), and another Labradoodle dog, Quinn (born in 2021). (After a good life of 17 years, our other cat, Mandy, passed away in 2018.) See the Gallery  page for pictures of all of us, including the current and previous pets.

  For 35 years before I retired I worked in the Financial District in Boston and to get to work, I took a commuter boat—a pleasant half-hour trip—during which I usually read or chatted with friends (and sometimes had a little excitement!). The Boston Globe did a comparison of commuting from the South Shore (Southern suburbs are referred to as the South Shore, we live in one) by car, boat, commuter rail, and Red Line (the subway), and not surpisingly, the boat came out on top. See more about my great commute here.

Times have certainly changed since I was a kid. For several years, my mother used email from her home in Boise, Idaho, to help stay in touch with her children and grandchildren, who all live thousands of miles from her. Family dynamics have changed a lot in my lifetime, and they are affected by much more than just new technology. Here is an article I saw in The Boston Globe, "Raising a Perfect Child," that presents an interesting view of parenting today. There are links to more parenting articles on the Articles page.


Family news . . .
  This is a regularly updated blog of family activities. Holiday cards are shown for many years. I started adding months in 2023

    2024
    2023
        2023 Holiday card     2022
        2022 family photo     2021     2020
        2020 Holiday card     2019     2018     2017     2016
  New house
    2015
  House under construction
    2014
  2014 Holiday card
    2013
  2013 Holiday card
    2012
  2012 Holiday card
    2011
  2011 Holiday card
    2007
  2007 Holiday card
    2004
  2004 Holiday card
    2003     2001     2000     1994     1993     1992     1991     1990     1989     1988-1990     1988     1985     1984     1983     1982
  First Hingham house
    1979     1978     1977     1975     1973

My parents

  Dad and Mom
My parents are both deceased and I am at an age that would make me a senior citizen. Ugh!
  My parents were born and raised in the Pacific Northwest. My dad grew up in Payette, Idaho (where I was raised), and after he graduated from high school he went to college in northern Idaho in Moscow at the University of Idaho. My mother was raised on a ranch in Southeastern Washington state and she lived with a wealthy aunt and uncle in Spoken when she was in high school (for a graduation present they gave her a trip to Europe) and then she also went to the University of Idaho, where she met my dad. After they both graduated in 1941 my parents got married and my dad went into the army to serve in World War II and my mother became a teacher in Idaho. After the war my dad went to Stanford Law School in Palo Alto. California, and my parents lived in the San Francisco Bay Area. When my mother got pregnant in 1946 with my older brother David (who died of early-onset Alzheimer's at age 66 in 2012) my dad dropped out of law school and they moved back to Payette, Idaho, which thy thought was a

My mother
better place to raise kids (I was born 2 years later in 1948). My dad became a banker and my mother was a stay-at-home mother and didn't start teaching again until we were older. My parents moved from Payette to Boise in the 1970s and my dad worked at the bank's head office and my mother taught in Kuna. My dad died in 1993 at age 73 when he had a seizure on a cross-country car trip outside St. Louis. (I was in Washington, DC, on business when I learned about this.) My mother, who would teach until she retired at age 65 in 1974, continued to live in Boise where I would visit her multiple times a year until she died in 2017 at age 98. I haven't been to Idaho since her funeral.

Patti and I got married in 1979 and have 2 children born in the 1980s, and they both graduated from college and are adults and haven't lived with us for decades.

The boys:

  Spanning 25 years

  2020 photos
  We have 2 grown sons, Alex and Ben, who are both college graduates (Alex has a Master's). We are so proud of our boys who have both travelled the world and lived in foreign countries. Neither lives near us (Alex in New York City and Ben in Taiwan) but we try to see them whenever we can—but not often enough (mostly we visit with them on Zoom or they visit us). We have regular Zoom sessions with the boys, which is a great way to stay in touch when you are far apart and can't see each other in person. Neither have any kids, so we have no grandkids yet.

   Alex was born in 1985 and lives in Brooklyn, NY, and is a college teacher.
He got his Bachelor's (2013) and Master's degrees from The New School in Greenwich Village, New York City. He lives in Brooklyn, NY, and teaches ESL (English as a Second Language) at LaGuardia Community College in Queens, NY, mostly to foreigners who work in the United States. Because of the pandemic all his classes were online for awhile, so he could do them on Zoom when he visited us. Alex met Laura in college and they lived together for years, including a trip they made to Vietnam in 2014, where they lived in Ho Chi Minh City (formerly Saigon) for a year. They got married after that but are divorced now. Alex lived with Laura in Brooklyn for years and he still lives in Brooklyn in another apartment with Lylynn, his fiancèe. He visits us occasionally because he is just hours away, so he can rent a car and they drive up for a few days.

Since he left home, Alex has lived in:
  • Lowell, MA- 2005 - UMass Lowell
  • Hingham, MA- 2006 - UMass Boston
  • Queens, NY- 2007
  • Brooklyn, NY- 2008 - got Bachelor's and Master's from The New School
  • Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam - 2014 - taught ESL
  • Brooklyn, NY- 2015 - teaches ESL at LaGuardia Community College (part of CUNY)

Lylynn 
   Ben was born in 1988 and lived in San Francisco, New York City, and Taipei, Taiwan for several years, and is a software engineer. He is staying with us and taveling in the U.S.
He graduated from college in 2011 with a degree in Computer Science from George Washington University (GW) in Washington, DC, which is located between The Watergate Complex and The White House. He worked for 2 years after college in Maryland, then spent a year when he was 25 (2014) traveling the world, mostly in Southeast Asia, and visited Alex and Laura in Vietnam, who were living there at the time. He went to China, Japan, India, Indonesia, South Korea, and Russia, on this trip (he took the Trans-Siberian Railway from Beijing to Moscow). We asked him once when we would see hin again and he said he was going to a wedding in Jamaica, so we went to Jamaica and saw Ben. After his travels he worked for Twitter in San Francisco for 4 years, then he worked on Wall Street in NYC for a year and lived in East Village, Manhattan. He left his job in NYC and came to stay with us for a short visit before moving to Taiwan, so who knows what's ahead for him? Ben has always had close friends who are Chinese and visited Taiwan several times. When he was in college he spent several months living in Amsterdam, Holland, on a study-abroad. We visited him there on a European trip, where he joined us in Paris and Amsterdam. In 2020 he moved to Taiwan. After living in Taiwan for 3 years with his Chinese roomate, Dongyi, he had planned to live in Lisbon, Portugal in March, 2024 but is staying with us and traveling the U.S. He has changed his name to Ulysse (pronounced "you lease").

Since he left home, Ben has lived in:
  • Washington, DC- 2007 - George Washington University, graduated in 2011
  • Columbia, MD- 2012
  • - 2014 - took a year off to travel all over the world
  • San Francisco, CA- 2015 - worked for Twitter for several years
  • New York City, NY- 2019 - worked on Wall Street
  • Taipei, Taiwan         - 2020

  With beard
  Patti is Jewish (she's not religious, and may even be an atheist like I am), which makes the boys Jewish by birth, and both our boys attended Hebrew school (a weekly event at a temple) and were Bar Mitzvah'd (Ben's was the weekend before 9/11 before they shut down airports so people were still able to fly in from out of town). Both boys' classes took field trips to New York City to see historical Jewish sites like the Eldridge Street Synagogue and I went as a chaperone on these trips, and we did some other interesting non-Jewish things like going to Ellis Island (where we listened to headphones on a tour) and the Statue of Liberty (where we climbed up the spiral staircase to look out the windows in the crown—this was closed for awhile after 9/11 (then again during the COVID-19 pandemic).


Places I've lived

I thought it would be fun to "re-visit" all the places I have lived in Google Maps Street View.

Payette, Idaho (1948-1966)
I spent the first 18 years of my life in the small, isolated town of Payette, Idaho. I was surprised it made Street View.
Childhood home (Center Ave.) 1951-1966 my parents bought this house when I was 3—we had a huge tree next to the driveway that has been taken down (see then & now)

Moscow, Idaho
(1966-1968)
I spent my first 2 years away from home in college at the University of Idaho in Moscow.
Borah Hall (U of I) 1966-1967 freshman year I lived in a dorm that was part of a big complex
First apartment (U of I) 1967-1968 sophomore year I shared an off-campus apartment with 2 friends
In 2022 there were some murders a block away from here

Seattle
(1968-1973)
I lived for years in Seattle in a variety of places. Some of the older buildings are no longer there, or the vegetation has changed so much I had difficulty recognizing them, but I tried to show the locations if I could find them. Addresses followed by (?) indicate that I was unable to find the exact building I lived in (probably gone now), and it has been so many years I am not always sure if this is even the right street. My former roommate, Ben, who still lives in Seattle, helped with some of the locations. I also found the Bird's Eye view in Bing Maps a good search tool.
15th Ave NE (U District) 1968-1969 first time living alone, across the street from Cowen Park (my apartment was main floor left in view), then basement apartment with Rainmar—friend Ben lived in another apartment in same building
NE 54th St (?) (U District) 1969 I'm just guessing on this location; it was in that area and this sort of looks right with the hill and openness;
one memory of this place is that it was where I was living in 1969 (with Rainmar) when I received my draft notice
N 41st St (Wallingford)   1969 foliage now hides the outside entrance to our apartment and the little cottage that was occupied by a nice young hippie couple; my roomate was Ben
Naomi Place (U District) 1969-1970 lived here with group of friends (including Bill and Andy) in era of long hair and rock festivals (roommate Pat nicknamed this "Naomi house"). Pat was my first roommate when I came to Boston for college in 1973.
12th Ave NE (U District) 1970-1971 lived here with group of friends, same era (roommate Pat came through with another nickname, "Excellent house")
"Minor Manor"(?) (Cascade) 1971-1972 the run-down complex of old buildings we lived in, and the taxi business next to it, seem to be gone
Franklin Ave E (Eastlake) 1972-1973 my roommate Bill usually stayed at his girlfriend's so I basically lived alone;
one great thing about this apartment was the view—we could look across Lake Union and see the Aurora Bridge (see aerial of location)
Boston (1973-1978)
I came to Boston in 1973 to return to college and I've been here ever since.
Beacon St. (Brookline) 1973-1975 shared apartment with Seattle friend & roommate Pat when I went to Berklee
Peterborough St. (Fenway) 1975-1976 the beginning of 3 years of living alone in the Fenway
Queensberry St. (Fenway) 1976-1978 where I was living when I met Patti, and during the Blizzard of '78

South Shore
(1977-present)
I met Patti in 1977, we soon lived together and got married, and we have two grown sons, both college graduates. We've have owned 3 houses on the South Shore.
Morningside Path (Weymouth) 1978-1982 Patti had just bought this house but hadn't moved in yet when we met, I moved in soon after—when we were first married we lived there until it was gutted by a fire in 1982;
it was rebuilt by the next owners, who added the additions and changed the color to green; Paula, who is still our good friend, lived next door
Lafayette Avenue (Hingham) 1982-2016 this was the family house where our two boys grew up (we added the 2-story addition on the right in 1991—family room downstairs, master bedroom upstairs);
after they left as adults (Alex to Brooklyn, Ben to San Francisco) we realized it was time to downsize
Talbot Road (Hingham) 2016 . . . this is our current house on Otis Hill, a neighborhood across from the Hingham Lobster Pound on Route 3A
   


Our houses

Since 1977 we have owned 3 suburban homes on the South Shore (suburbs South of Boston on the coast) in Weymouth and Hingham. I met Patti in 1977 when she had just bought a house in Weymouth and I think our first date was her house-warming party with friends. I still had an apartment in Boston but I moved in with Patti in 1978 (and bought a car (a 1973 Toyota Corolla) to commute to my job in Boston) and we got married in 1979. After I moved in and my name was on the mortgage I found that the total mortgage payment each month was less than I was paying for monthly rent on my last apartment
(less than $200 in those days). We lost this house to a fire in 1982. After we moved to our next house in Hingham we had 2 sons in 1985 and 1988, who have graduated from college and begun their adult lives.

1st house

Weymouth
Bought in 1977
2nd house

Hingham
Bought in 1982
3rd house

Hingham
Bought in 2015

House
locations

1977 - 1982  –  1st house  –  Weymouth  –  Morningside Path, a "Cape" near Whitman's Pond (we lost this house to a fire)  –  1977 purchase price was $32,900 (Patti bought the house in 1977, I moved in in 1978, we were married in 1979)
1982 - 2016  –  2nd house  –  Hingham  –  Lafayette Avenue, a "Shingle-style" Victorian in Hingham Square  –  1982 purchase price was $123,500, remodeled over the years, and sold in 2016 for over $1 million
2016 - present   –  3rd house  –  Hingham  –  Talbot Road, a Gambrel Cape on Otis Hill, second-to-last house on dead-end street  –  2015 purchase price was $789,000, appraised after remodeling at $1.4 million
Locations of our Hingham houses.

The first two we moved into, then remodeled. After we bought our current house, we got an architect and builder, then remodeled it for a year before moving there.




Fire!

Fire photos

Next house
We lost our first house in Weymouth to a fire in 1982. It was on a June afternoon and Patti was next door, sun-bathing on chairs in the backyard with our neighbor and good friend Paula (we are still good friends with Paula even though we live in different houses in different towns now), and Paula asked Patti if she if she had left an air-conditioner on because there was smoke coming out of a bedroom window that had an air-conditioner. The bedroom was above the kitchen, which is where the actual fire was, and Patti rushed home to deal with it. When she opened the kitchen door she saw the fire (an electrical fire that started in a wall) and it was already out of control, and our cat rushed in through the open door (to his death). I was at work in Boston and she called me and said, "The house is on fire!" and I rushed home (I drove a car to work in Boston in those days) but the firefighters were rolling up their hoses so I missed it all. The house was burned out inside and was a total loss (see photos). It is tough to lose everything you own in a sudden tragedy like that but you recover and go on. Fortunately we didn't have kids yet, but we lost 2 cats in the fire (our dog was tied up safely outside). Living through a horror like a fire is not something you prepare for, and the experience opened up a whole new world to us with people who deal with this trajedy on a regular basis—adjusters, lawyers, and various emergency services. The insurance company offered to put us up in a hotel or have a mobile home in the driveway. We took the mobile home option (I expected something like a camper trailer but was shocked and pleased that they delivered a 2-bedroom modern mobile home) and we lived there that summer, where we had a pool in the back yard, and talked to people about rebuilding the house but we realized we would have made the house we wanted to build by far the most expensive house in the neighborhood so it was better to move to the house we wanted rather than build it. We bought a

Mobile home
in driveway

Remodeled
cape house
beautiful house in Hingham on a corner lot with a hedge (a few miles away) and moved. The fire was many years ago, before we had children (they were born in the next house in the 1980s), and my memories of it are pretty dim. For years we would be wondering where something was that we owned, then would realize it was lost in the fire. (When Patti and I started living together we merged our stereo systems and stored some of the unused components and other things in the basement, so these were not damaged in the fire and were used again in our next house.)  We sold the burned-out house to a young couple who remodeled it with several additions and made it their home.

This house was the first of 3 houses we have owned.


Idaho roots   (See my Payette page for more)

 

Payette in 60s
I grew up in Payette, Idaho and I lived there until I finished high school in 1966. There is more information about my childhood on my Payette page. Some of you may be interested to know that Idaho's in the Northwest, not the Midwest, and this map shows you that Idaho and Iowa are two different states a thousand miles apart!  My great-grandfather, Peter Pence, was one of the pioneers of the town (more Payette history). My late cousin Bob assembled a Pence family tree, starting with Peter's son (my grandfather, Albert Loyd Pence). I have one famous relative, my late uncle Herman Welker (married to my dad's sister, Gladys), who was a U.S. Senator from Idaho from 1951-1957. I don't agree with his politics (he was a Joseph McCarthy supporter) but I was just a kid then so it didn't cause me any distress. After graduating from high school in 1966 I majored in Engineering at University of Idaho in Moscow for 2 years (1966-1968). (Fortunately, I missed this excitement by a few years!) After 2 years I knew that wasn't what I wanted to do, so I stopped going to college and moved to Seattle and for the next 5 years I worked at Boeing and other manufacturing jobs (because I had learned to read blueprints as an Engineering major). I started playing guitar in college and had become a jazz guitarist so in 1973 I went back to college in Boston to study music at Berklee College of Music, but after a couple of years I discovered computers and went to several other colleges and after graduating became a computer programmer, which I did for the next 35 years (I commuted from my home in Hingham to Boston by boat) until I retired uin 2018.

  Pence family tree – I try to keep this updated

Here's an interesting juxtaposition, my childhood home in 1963 and 2005 (the newer photo taken by my friend Barbara Wilson). You can also see it in Street View. Following high school, in 1966 I went to the University of Idaho in Moscow, where I majored in mechanical engineering, partly because my high school guidance counselor and my SAT scores pointed me in that direction, and partly because I thought that when I got out of college as an engineer I could avoid the draft (more about that here), which was something that all men of draft age (18-26) had to worry about at that time.

The classic Big Potato postard I saw as a child.
Some Idaho links . . .

Official Idaho Vacation Guide see some beautiful Idaho images on this travel and tourism guide
Idaho.gov the Official Website of the State of Idaho
Idaho Commerce & Labor the Idaho Department of Commerce has a very thorough website
State & County QuickFacts from the U.S. Census Bureau
Idaho Genweb Project this site has lots of interesting information
Imaging/Imagining Boise a photographic exploration of Boise's past and present
Idaho Potato Official Website I couldn't resist including this one
You know you're from Idaho when . . . from an email
200 year old copper wire from an email

Payette links . . .

City of Payette the official town website
Payette Chamber of Commerce     just what you'd expect
Payette, Idaho - Wikipedia good info here
Payette on City-Data I love the photos
Payette County IDGenWeb Project this genealogy page is part of the IDGenWeb and USGenWeb Projects
Wikipedia: Payette I was surprised to find this
Payette on Google Maps Looking up main street in Street View
My Payette page created originally for sharing things with my high school classmates

For years I made regular trips to visit my mother, who still lived in Boise (my father died in 1993), but she passed away in 2017 so with no family there now my Idaho trips may diminish.


1967
  1967 was a very big year in terms of style, music, and politics. I was a young adult, 19-years-old, and I was discovering who I was. I had a great year and lots of memories of those days. I lived a pretty typical lifestyle for people of my generation, growing long hair, doing drugs, going to rock concerts, and going on lots of anti-war marches (and ultimately a battle with the draft in 1969)

  After my first year of college I came home and when my mother asked me what I wanted to do for the summer I said go to San Francisco (a dorm buddy had graduated from college and had a job in the Bay Area). She said every kid in the country was going to go there in 1967 (the "Summer of Love") so I wasn't. My older brother, David, who went to UW in Seattle, had had a summer job every year when he was in college selling dictionaries door-to-door, and he had done so well he was going to have his own crew this year. My mother said I could work for him so I went to Atlanta, Georgia, with my brother for a summer job selling dictionaries, which I did for about 2 weeks before I decided that where I really wanted to be in the summer of 1967 was San Francisco . So I went out to the highway, stuck out my thumb, and hitchhiked cross-country to California. I still can't believe I did that, not knowing where I would sleep each night, but at 19 we have the nerve to do these crazy things. (This trip took me 4 days, including 24 hours I spent in St. Louis with a college buddy.) Someone picked me up in Kansas and said he was going all the way to California, so I thought I had it made, but his car broke down in Salt Lake City and he decided to hitchhike the rest of the way. We split up and I was on my own again.

My college buddy that I stayed with lived in Vallejo, just North of Berkeley, but we got into San Francisco a lot and I feel like I really experienced what was happening there (and I witnessed Haight-Ashbury during its cultural peak). Most of my experiences of that era were in Seattle, where I lived that fall. I was only in the Bay Area for part of a summer, not really long enough to consider it a place of residence, so there is no San Francisco section on this bio page.

1967 was also the year of the first Monterey Pop Festival, one of the first rock festivals in the country.

After leaving the Bay Area I lived in Seattle for several months then returned to college at the U of I in Moscow. I remember the anti-war marches they had in Moscow had people marching around in circles with signs, and I thought I was so sophisticated having been on much larger marches in Seattle. I also had shoulder-length hair and people would come up to me and ask where they could buy drugs. I soon came to the conclusion that life would be more fun without the responsibilities of school. In 1968, after 2 years of college, I moved back to Seattle, where I lived for 5 years, before returning to college in Boston in 1973, and I still live in the Boston area, where I finished school, got married, had kids, and had a great career.



Seattle

Aerial view

Seattle map

Seattle photos
 

Me, 1969
Beginning in 1968 I lived for 5 years in Seattle, Washington, a great city and definitely one of the most scenic cities in the world. Initially I lived in the University District ("U-District") because the few people I knew in Seattle were students at the University of Washington. I always assumed I would become a student at the U but I didn't go back to school until I came to Boston in 1973. During my Seattle years I lived in many areas including the U-District, Wallingford, Cascade (South of Lake Union), and Eastlake (Capitol Hill). I lived in several houses with groups of friends and had several apartments, usually with a roommate and sometimes alone (see my Seattle dwellings for some Google Street View photos). You might call those my "hippie" years, when I had long hair and lived a lifestyle emulating the values of that culture (and did lots of drugs!). I went to many antiwar rallies and marches (see Where I stand), rock concerts and rock festivals (see 60s music), and in 1969 I got drafted and was a draft resister. (Please don't associate me with Donald Trump, who was NOT a resister but only had a fake bone-spurs deferment.) In summer 1969 my friend and I were house-sitting a house in the View Ridge neighborhood that had a color TV and we watched Apollo 11 land on the moon while we were tripping on acid.

I have many fond memories of my years in Seattle, where I made few commitments and pretty much focused on the here and now, living a lifestyle of hedonism. I did my share of drugs including primarily marijuana (which we called "grass" or "dope" but it is mostly referred to as "pot" these days) and LSD (acid). It's sad when I think of how many of my Seattle friends have died from various causes (some violent). Weren't we all supposed to live forever?


Eagles
Like many people of my generation I went regularly to rock concerts by the top West Coast groups of the day at the Eagles Auditorium. My roommate Bill was friends with the Retina Circus who put on the light shows (Andy, another roommate, joined them, went back to San Francisco with them, and is in the video) and since everybody in Seattle knew they would be at Eagles every Saturday night and their house would be vacant, for security reasons Bill and I volunteered to "baby-sit" their house. They had a great stereo and Voice of the Theater speakers so we enjoyed these evenings (and of course we got very high). One night the Retina Circus hired Bill and me to do the stage lighting for a Byrds concert at Eagles. The next night we drove to Spokane to repeat it. When we were setting up the lighting on the microphones on stage people would assume we were roadies and ask us what it was like to travel with the Byrds. We sucked it up and didn't deny it. One memory I have of the Eagles concerts is that they regularly played Ike & Tina Turner doing "River Deep, Mountain High" between sets when the bands were changing.


Seattle panoramas

Mt. Rainer
Seattle is a beautiful city, bordered on the west by Puget Sound, a salt-water inlet from the Pacific, and on the east by Lake Washington, a fresh-water lake (see map). There are many smaller bodies of water throughout the city and it is known for its boating. I once read that Seattle has the most miles of shoreline of any city its size in the world. There are many bridges and ferries that bring visitors and commuters into the city. To the east of Lake Washington is the Cascade mountain range which includes Mt. Rainier and to the west of Puget Sound is the Olympic Peninsula, which contains the Olympic Mountains. From the city you can look to the East or West and see mountains. As you will notice most photos of Seattle show the Space Needle, that was built for the 1962 World's Fair, which I attended. Here is a view of Lake Union showing quite a lot of the city.


Original REI store

First Eddie Bauer
REI and Eddie Bauer, two national outdoor gear chains, had their original stores in Seattle and only those single stores existed when I lived there. REI, which stands for Recreational Equipment Inc. and called "the Rec" by my friends and I, was sort of a warehouse type store on Capitol Hill where many items were put on shelves still in their shipping boxes, and as I recall you had to put the price on individual items yourself. The Eddie Bauer store on 2nd Ave. was more like a department store, much classier. We bought camping (backpacking) equipment at REI and outdoor clothing (parkas and sweaters) at Eddie Bauer. At that time you had to join REI to shop there, and decades later I shopped at an REI store in the Boston area (where I live now) and because I had joined REI in the 60s the sales clerk told me I had the lowest membership number she had ever seen.
Starting in 1969, after my draft resistance experience, I lived in a house with a bunch of guys on Naomi Place in the U District (given the name "Naomi House" by roommate Pat Stanton, who was my roommate when I came to Boston in 1973 and currently lives in California with his wife and kids). We also had roommates Bill Schaefer, Andy Neddermeyer (who joined the Retina Circus light show group and moved with them to the San Francisco Bay area), and Russ Taylor, whom I have also kept in touch with. We all later moved to another house in the U District on 12th Ave NE. (named "Excellent House" by Pat) and we had women living with us at this time. I went to Mexico with 3 Seattle friends in 1972. I had other apartments in Seattle in the U District, Wallingford (with Ben), Cascade (in a complex we called "Minor Manner" that is no longer there), and Capitol Hill (with Bill).

See Places I've Lived for descriptions and photos of all my Seattle dwellings.

Deceased former roomates

  Bill Schaefer (1/15/2006 - liver cancer) was my best friend and frequent roommate when I lived in Seattle. Bill was a student at University of Washington when we met. After college he had relocated to Eugene, OR, and was married with one grown daughter. After I moved to the East Coast in 1973 I saw Bill only once on a return trip to Seattle when he still lived there, and our only contact since then was by phone or email. I learned of his death from Russ Taylor, another Seattle friend and roommate. Bill died Janunary 15, 2006 from liver cancer. He was 58 (we were the same age), Bill's father was in the military and he was raised all over the world. He went to high school in England.
  Ben Lindekugel (6/21/2019 - died unexpectedly) and I lived in the same apartment building when I first moved to Seattle in 1968. Ben was a student at University of Washington when we met. He became my good friend and roommate and I was living with him when I received my draft notice in 1969. We kept in touch and I have seen him several times on Seattle trips after I came East. Ben was quite accomplished in his career that spanned over four decades of community service as an exemplary healthcare leader and public policy advocate. He was Executive Director of Association of Washington Public Hospital Districts.
Ben died June 21, 2019. He was 69 (2 years younger than me). Ben was born and raised in Lead, South Dakota (we humorously referred to this as "LSD"). (obituary, remembrance from colleague)
  I had a couple of other Seattle friends who had freaky, violent deaths after I was living in Boston.
  • Tom Sheimo - a former roommate, who many years later was shot to death by a crazed gunman when he drove down a street where a man with a gun was holed up in a house that was surrounded by police.
  • Mike Schwabe - who was later incarcerated and deported from a European country for drug dealing and came to stay with Pat and me in Boston for a short time, and later moved back to Seattle and was hit and killed by a logging truck on the Olympic Peninsula
Coincidently, Mike and Tom are both in the cab in this photo.

Childhood memories

When I was growing up in Idaho my grandparents lived in Seattle, where they managed and lived in a family owned hotel, the Calhoun Hotel, which was located downtown on Second Avenue. On regular visits we stayed in that hotel (maybe I should insert my Seth Thomas clock story here) and had Seattle excursions. By the 60s they lived in a house on Queen Anne Hill, and in 1962, when the World's Fair was hosted in Seattle (that's when the Space Needle was built) we visited them there and attended the fair. We actually ran into someone from our hometown, Payette, at the fair. I remember once we took a ferry from Seattle up to Victoria, BC, Canada, on Vancouver Island. One thing that stuck in my memory of this trip is that my younger brother, Ed, was put in a harness and perhaps on a leash to control him on the ferry. That was the 50s when people did crazy stuff like that.

Rainy Seattle?

Seattle has gotten a bad label as a rainy city but that is not the way I remember it. I had a bicycle in Seattle and rode it all over and rain was never a problem. Seattle gets 38 inches of rainfall annually, but in Seattle Doesn't Get That Much Rain you'll read that major U.S. cities that get more are Mobile, AL (65), New Orleans (60), Miami (58), Memphis (52), Houston (48), Nashville (48), New York (43), Philadelphia (41), and Boston (44) where I live now. Perhaps the rainy impression of Seattle comes from it being cloudy a lot.

Seattle neighborhoods I've lived in
See Seattle under Places I've Lived for photos and descriptions of places.

  • U-District      - When I came to town my friends were students at the University of Washington
    - I lived in the U-District in 1969 when I received my draft notice
  • Wallingford - foliage now hides the outside entrance to our apartment and the little cottage that was occupied by a nice young hippie couple
  • Cascade      - I lived here a short time in a grungy place we called "Minor Manor" (it was on Minor Ave)
  • Eastlake      - Nice place on Capitol Hill with a view


Jobs


GRANDMA'S COOKIES
When I came to Seattle in 1968 after 2 years of college I needed a job. I applied to Boeing, the largest employer in town, and was hired at a position several levels above entry-leval because I could read blueprints (I had majored in Engineering in college). I worked there off and on for several years at the Developmental Center and Plant 2, south of Seattle. Near the end of my time in Seattle I was looking for another job and since I could see the big, red, neon GRANDMA'S COOKIES sign on a building in Wallingford across Lake Union from my apartment on Capitol Hill. I decided to apply there. It turned out that the building still had the sign but was occupied by a machine shop, and because of my Boeing skills I was hired. Unfortunately, Grandma's Cookies was no longer in the building and the current shop was manned by a religious-cult who had prayer meetings at lunch and I didn't fit in or last long.

My music

One thing I did a lot in those days (the sixties) was collect vinyl records. Being a musician my taste in music tended to be somewhat esoteric so I didn't just go to the standard commercial record stores like Discount Records (one of the big chain stores that has since disappeared), but sought out harder to find records, many times at used record stores. One of my favorites was a store on the "Ave" (University Way) in Seattle named "Puss 'n' Books", which sold used books and records, and had cats roaming around. They bought records from you for $1 and sold them for $1.50. I sold them many records (purging my record collection of albums I no longer wanted to own), and I was pretty good at taking the platter out of the jacket and eyeing it for scratches before buying it. I created a record collection of hundreds of albums which I kept for decades and in 1968 I started a component stereo system that I had for years, upgrading many times (read more here). Now my music is entirely digital and I listen on my smartphone. My vinyl record collection was regularly updated (cleaned out) because I removed albums I no longer liked and didn't want friends playing or requesting those albums.

I played guitar when I was in Seattle, and since my style was fairly experimental my musical tastes evolved into jazz, so when I decided to go back to school to study music, I chose Berklee College of Music in Boston, where I switched to upright bass (see more on my Music page). So, in 1973, I came to Boston (and never left).

Some Seattle links . . .

Google Maps click Photos on left and scroll through (map in the lower left shows location of each photo)
Seattle.gov the official website of the City of Seattle; take the Virtual Tour
Beautiful Seattle a site with access to lots of information
Dan Heller's Photos Dan Heller's photographs are always beautiful
Seattle Photo Galleries the title says it all
A Seattle Lexicon Lingo from the Far Corner
SeattleCenter.com events, attractions, map, etc.
The Space Needle I first saw this at the 1962 World's Fair
SeattlePI.com Seattle Post-Intelligencer
SeattleTimes.com the Seattle Times Homepage
HistoryLink.org The Online Encyclopedia of Washington State History
Seattle Pop History: Rock to Zero Dock a clickable map of downtown Seattle
Lost in Seattle many old Seattle memories
Seattle Viewpoints where to see and take photos of Seattle's great views
VRSeattle.com the Quicktime VR Tour of Seattle
Seattle Waterfront 2002-1907 panoramic photos of the waterfront from the same vantage point, taken 95 years apart
Penny Postcards from Washington many vintage scenes
List of Seattle landmarks some historicial stuff here
You might be from the Northwest if you . . . from an email



Travel We lessened our traveling during the pandemic!
  Traveling is something I've always enjoyed, both in the U.S. and abroad. My family took many trips when I was growing up in Idaho in the 50s and 60s, always by car (my first time flying was in 1974, flying home from college in Boston). Living in Idaho we usually went to West Coast locations like Seattle, California, and Oregon, typically to see relatives—my grandparents lived in Seattle, my dad's brother, Pete, lived in the S.F. Bay Area, and I had aunts and uncles in Eugene, Oregon. We went to Tijuana, Mexico, once on a California trip and one time we took a ferry from Seattle to Victoria, BC, Canada.  In 1956 (when I was 8) we took a cross-country car trip to New York City (saw parents' college friends, rode on a subway), Ithaca (where we saw my mother's sister Ruth and her husband, Gordon Streib, a professor at Cornell), Massachusetts (aunt and uncle lived in Petersham), and Washington, DC, (uncle Herman Welker, married to my dad's sister, Gladys, was a U.S. Senator, their daughter Nancy now lives in Boise) stopping in St. Louis to see my dad's brother, Abe (his daughter Pat is now a veterinarian in metro-Boise that I see on Boise trips, and son Bert is a real-estate entreprenuer in Austin, TX), and Colorado (saw my 1st-grade teacher who had relocated there). On this trip we drove over the Continental Divide and Royal Gorge in Colorado.  I remember my brother, David, had a U.S. map on the wall marking all the roads we traveled on. In my life I've actually been to 47 of the 48 continental states (never Arkansas), and I confess, I've only been to North Dakota once when my plane was diverted to Fargo after the Minneapolis airport, my connecting airport on a trip to Boise, was temporarily closed due to an unexpected blizzard.* Speaking of missing Arkansas, I one drove from Florida, to New Orleans, then to San Antonio, TX. This route went through Louisiana on Route 10, beneath Arkansas.

My parents lived in Boise and I visited them several times a year, sometimes attending high school reunions on these trips. My dad died in 1993 and I continued to visit my mother until she passed in 2017. It was always a kick on these trips to get reaquainted with my high school friends who still live in the Boise area, and see my first cousins Nancy and Pat, and many of us have stayed in touch on Facebook.

* On the trip when I went to Fargo I was originally scheduled to arrive in Boise at 1:30 in the afternoon. My connecting flight to Boise left the Minneapolis airport when it opened after the snow had been cleared, which was before I had returned from Fargo. The airline put me on a flight to Chicago, then to Salt Lake City, then to Boise. I asked what time this plane would arrive in Boise and was told 11:30pm. I said that was unacceptable and made up a story that my mother had been rushed to a hospital and I needed to get there ASAP. They put me on a flight straight to Boise that arrived in mid-afternoon.
Now why did I have to lie to get this flight, which apparently was already scheduled?

Recent trips (when I took cellphone photos)

   These are mostly shown in slideshows in the different styles I used over the years.
2018 Italy - we took an extended family trip to Rome, Florence, Venice
2014 Jamaica - Ben spent a year traveling around he world and we asked him when we could see him again—he said he had a wedding in Jamaica so we went there to see him and had a wonderful vacation!
2010 Europe - Patti and I and our friend Paula, went to London, Paris, Amsterdam, where we saw our son Ben
2009 Washington, DC - photos from one of our many trips there
2009 Clinton, CT - our friends Jim & JoAnne have a coastal summer house
2008 Boise, ID - I used to visit my late mother (she died in 2017) several times a year and these are photos from one of those trips
2007 Florida - Patti's parents lived in Florida and we went there many times on vacations
2005 San Francisco - Patti had a medical conference and I went along to enjoy one of my favorite cities
2005 Old Saybrook, CT - Patti's brother Ed and wife rented a coastal cottage for years
   See more under Snapshots.

Other trips, many with Patti and kids

   I've lived with my wife Patti in the Boston area since 1977 (we married in 1979) and we've taken many trips in North America including . . .
New York City
  When I was going to college in Boston in the 70s I had a couple of New York City connections. My brother David and an old Seattle friend Chris lived there. I would make weekend trips to NYC and they really showed me around Manhattan. I would take the train down from Boston and I remember one time I reconnected with an MIT student I had met on a previous trip. Chris had an apartment just off Central Park West, then moved to the Upper East Side, so I was really exposed to great neighborhoods. Chris took me around to all the dance clubs and one time I went to the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade, not something a non-New Yorker would likely experience. My brother lived in Westchester but he had a car so we could really get around the city. Years later I went as a chaperone on my boys' Hebrew school field trips to New York in the 90s to see historical Jewish sites like the Eldridge Street synagogue, one of the first synagogues in the U.S. We did some other interesting things on these trips like touring Ellis Island, the gateway for over 12 million immigrants to the U.S. from 1892 until 1954, and going to the Statue of Liberty, where we climbed the steep, winding steps up to the crown, not something you can do anymore.

Washington, DC
  We've gone to Washington, DC, many times when our son Ben went to George Washington University (2007-2011), and to visit my brother and family in a Northern Virginia DC suburb (late brother, David, worked for the Census Bureau in Metro-DC). We usually stayed in boutique hotels within walking distance of the Mall and GW. I've also gone there many times on business trips and I remember once when there was unexpected freezing rain and my rental car had no ice-scraper so I had to use a credit card to scrape the windshield. I remember another winter trip when an unexpected snowstorm was closing airports on the East coast and I had to high-tale it back to Boston before the airport was closed. I was on the plane at the Washington aiport that taxied out to take off, but they kept running out of de-icing fluid and the plane would return to the gate and let us off to make phone calls (this was in the days before cellphones!). This went on for 4 hours and I was riding in coach, and the people in business class were getting drink orders, and one guy was feeling guilty so he came back and took drink orders from us in coach.

Florida
  We love taking Florida winter vacations when it's cold up North. Patti's parents retired to Florida in the 70s from Connecticut, where Patti grew up. They bought a house with a swimming pool in Boca Raton on a golf course. We would go there every year with the kids on school vacations. We also went to Disney World and Epcot a couple of times, Key West a few times (taking a nice drive through the Keys), Sanibel Island a few times ( driving on I-75 through Alligator Alley through the Everglades to get to the Gulf Coast from South Florida), and several other Florida vacations (see photos below). Patti's brother, Ed, and his wife, Andi, were snowbirds, living half the time in Connecticut and half the time in a condo on the beach in Boca (Ed died tragically of pancreatic cancer in 2015). My aunt and uncle (mother's sister and husband) lived in Gainesville, where he taught at the University of Florida. I saw them when I was a kid and we saw them once in Boston, and we attended a memorial service for them in Gainesville when they died (miraculously a day apart). He had been a professor at Cornell for decades, where we saw them on a New York trip on 1956, before moving to Florida in semi-retirement.

SLC tornado

  We were in Salt Lake City in 1999 visiting our friend Sheri who lived there (she was our au pair in the 80s and is now married with kids) when an unexpected tornado ripped through the city causing millions of dollars of damage. We happened to be downtown right where this tornado came through and fortunately got into a building and watched it go by. I remember earlier looking down the street at the Delta Center building noticing a cloud of smoke coming off, which then separated from the building and realizing it was not a fire I said, "It's a tornado!", which my kids mocked me saying for years.

Las Vegas

  Patti had a medical conference in Las Vegas in 2013 and I went for the fun. We stayed in the Mandarin Oriental hotel on the Strip, which is non-smoking and has no casino. We did all the usual tourist things including going to a Rod Stewart concert at Caesar's Palace. We also visited the Wee Kirk o' the Heather wedding chapel, where my parents were married in 1942.

Business trips

  From 1988-1994 I worked at Carter Rice, a Boston division of International Paper. We had many offices I frequented including Boston (my oiffice), New York, Washington (I went there regularly), Philadelphia, Baltimore, and Harrisburg (PA). Because so many people traveled to the New York office rather than pay for hotel rooms it owned a condo on Park Avenue so when I went there and stayed over I just walked down 5th Avenue past the Empire State Building to the office across from Madison Square Park (that's the Flatiron Building in the center of the photo). I also went to Chicago on trips for this company (I remember once buying a half-frozen, deep-dish, Chicago pizza and nervously having it in the overhead bin above my seat on the plane coming back to Boston!). I made trips to other IP locations including Kansas City, Milwaukee, Charlotte (NC), Denver, and Providence (by car). On a trip to San Antonio I was at a conference at the River Walk and stayed in a hotel across from the The Alamo (which I've seen a couple of times). On that trip I rented a car and drove up to Austin, so see my 2 cousins, Nancy Terry (who later moved to Boise where I've seen her several times) and Bert Pence.

Club Med

  Patti and I have gone on many vacations to the Caribean, including once around 1981 a trip to a Club Med resort on Guadaloupe. On this trip President Carter was staying nearby and his motorcade would go by our restort. Since the Club Med resort had a heavy French influence the regular beach was topless and there was also a nude beach. They had a great house band that played in the dining area and I remember between sets they played their rendition of Stevie Wonder's "Another Star." We made several other trips to the Bahamas, once staying at the Atlantis hotel on Paradise Island off Nassau and once years before staying at a hotel which became part of Atlantis. (It was strange when we stayed at Atlantis to see our old hotel be a separate wing.)

Mexico – (map of trip, see locations mentioned below)

 

Map of trip
In fall 1972 (I remember the year because it was November and everybody voted absentee for McGovern for President) I went to Mexico for a couple of months with 3 Seattle friends—Randy Scofield, Pat Stanton, & Bill Schaefer. Randy, had a new pop-top VW Westfalia camper and we stayed in American owned campgrounds (little pods of America with showers and laundries) at various locations around the country. (I remember our sleeping arrangements: Randy, who owned the van, slept in the pop-top, Pat splept in a small hammock strung over the front driver/passenger seats, and Bill and I slept in the back.) On the way to Mexico we went to Tulsa, Oklahoma to pick up something for Bill at his parents' house, then went through Dallas, TX, and we saw Dealey Plaza, where JFK was shot. We entered Mexico at Nuevo Laredo, went through Monterrey to Tampico and Tuxpan on the Gulf Coast, travelled over to Mexico City, then up for a week at San Miguel de Allende in the mountains. They had this custom where in the evening in the square the males would walk one way around the block and the females would walk the other way, to encourage them to mingle. We did this and met some women! Then we went over to Guadalajara (where my cousin's father was the editor of the English speaking newspaper), then over to San Blas on the Pacific and then down to Puerto Vallarta, where we saw the beach cove where the movie "Night of the Iguana" was filmed, then up the coast, spending the night on the beach in Mazatlan, where we saw lots of American surfers. We spent many nights and days at many of these places. We finally reentered the U.S. in Arizona, then over to California then up the Pacific Coast (stopping at Tower Records in San Francisco where I spent my remaining vacation money on records) and back home to Seattle.
More info on my friends . . .
  • Bill Schaefer was my roommate several times and one of my best Seattle friends. He passed away from cancer in 2009
  • Pat Stanton is retired from Oracle and lives in the San Francisco Bay Area
    He was a programmer when we were roommates in Seattle in the 60s and we shared an apartment when I came to Boston in 1973 to go back to college
    He came to our wedding in 1979 and we visited him and his wife in San Francisco in the 80s
  • Randy Scofield lives on Whidbey Island, North of Seattle and we are Facebook friends
Cross-country car trips

  I've made 4 cross-country trips by car, all originating in the Northwest; 3 were round-trips, the last time was a one-way trip to Boston for college (and I am still here and now retired, after college, working, getting married, and raising a family and owning 3 houses):
 
  • First trip was in 1956 with the family when I had just finished 2nd grade. On this trip we went to:
    • New York City (my first subway ride), where we saw college friends of my parents
    • Ithaca, NY, where we saw my mother's sister Ruth and her husband, Dr. Gordon Streib, a noted gerontologist and a professor at Cornell
    • Petersham, Massachusetts, where my mother's other sister was married to a Unitarian minister, Dr. Leon Hopper
    • Washington, DC, where my uncle Herman Welker (dad's sister Glady's husband) was a U.S. Senator from Idaho. I have memories (probably faulty and fabricated) of seeing JFK as a senator and Nixon as Vice-President (and also a neighbor of my relatives) in DC.
  • Next trip was in 1967 after a year of college, with my older brother David, for whom I was going to work selling dictionaries door-to-door, which he had done as a summer job when he was in college, so successfully that he was able to recruit his own crew. We went to Nashville (for training, where I had guacamole for the first time and discovered I love avacado) then to a suburb of Atlanta to sell. I got my fill of this in a few weeks and hitchhiked cross-country to San Francisco (the place to be in 1967, the "Summer of Love"), getting one long ride in Kansas with a guy going to San Francisco, until his car broke down in Salt Lake City and we split up and I resumed my hitchhiking, getting a ride in Nevada with a Canadian woman who had her kids in the car. On this trip I saw a college roommate in St. Louis and connected and lived with another college friend when I got to the Bay Area. I didn't find the permanent job I had hoped for and went back to Idaho and my 2nd year of college in the fall.
  • Next trip, around 1971, when I lived in Seattle. I went with my younger brother Ed (who was in college) to Bill Monroe's bluegrass festival in Indiana (I was a guitar player and jammed with several famous bluegrass musicans including fiddle-player Kenny Baker and later played in a bar in Nashville with mandolin-player Roland White (brother of Byrds' guitarist and all-time best bluegrass guitar player Clarence White), then onward to North Carolina, down to Florida, then back through New Orleans and San Antonio (saw The Alamo) and ultimately California. I remember I had an older car and we kept putting used tires on it when the ones on it wore out and went flat (the things we did in our youth!).
  • Next trip was in 1973 when I drove from Seattle to Boston to go back to college. A Seattle friend rode with me on this drive but he chose to stay with friends in Detroit so I drove the rest of the way alone. I remember I spent my last night in a hotel in the Poconos in Pennsylvania. When I got to Boston I moved in with my Seattle friend, Pat, who had gone on the Mexico trip with me. I had that car for a year in college and got so many parking tickets it finally got towed. (This trip was one-way and Boston has been my home ever since.)


Walking

Something I have always really enjoyed is walking. Now that I'm retired I go for regular neighborhood walks with our dogs, Casey and Quinn. When I was working, at lunchtime at my job at Safety Insurance in Boston, where I worked the last 24 years of my career (I retired in 2018) my colleague Margarette and I walked a 3-mile loop from our office that took us around the Boston Common and Public Garden at a brisk pace, not quite a power-walk but it did help to keep us in shape. I also do daily dog walks.
  Walk for Hunger


Walk for Hunger route
I have participated in several fundraising walks, which lets me do something I really enjoy while earning money for good causes. I do the Walk for Hunger with my regular walking partner and dear friend
Margarette (we did this 20-mile walk together 20 years. every year from 1999 until I retired in 2018). The first few years (when we were so much younger!) at our rapid pace we completed it several times in just 4 hours (that is walking at 5 MPH for 20 miles!). We go a little slower as we got older but we still passed a lot of people. The money-collecting for sponsorship was done at work, where the company matched my pledges. I wish good luck to Margarette if she continues.

Our walks . . . (I've finally started taking selfies of Margarette and me!)
 
2015

2016

2017

2018
  I've also done fundraising walks for AIDS, Cancer, Alzheimer's, and ALS.

Project Bread, The Walk for Hunger
Walk to End Alzheimer's
AIDS Walk Boston
Dog walks
Smartphone
  Smartphones have really changed our lifestyles, although I read that kids who grew up with smartphones and tablets can't relate to older technology that was common before they were born. I currently have a Samsung Galaxy S9 Android cellphone (I love this phone!). I perviously had a Samsung Galaxy S4 Mini for 4 years and most of my descriptions here are based on that. I have had various cellphones since 1995, starting with a series of flip-phones, but in 2011 my son Alex gave me my first smartphone, a Droid X. I used it for several years before replacing it with my Samsung in January, 2014 (purchased for 1¢ on a Staples promotion!). I got my S9 when it came out because I assumed the previous model, the S8, would be discounted, and when I went to Best Buy to get it they gave me a $300 discount on the S9 so I bought it!  One of the things I like best about having a smartphone is having a computer in my pocket at all times, so I can (besides make phone calls!) use Google, email, texting, Facebook, GPS, and of course, listen to music.

Lest anyone think the smartphone has complicated my life—before I had one I listened to music on an iPod and read books on a Sony Reader (and before that I carried a paperback). Now I do both on my phone so I've done away with 2 extra digital devices I used to carry around— so having a smartphone has actually simplified my life. Airlines now allow you to read a smartphone on planes in Airplane mode and when I travel I don't take a laptop anymore, only my smartphone.

I listen to music on my phone with earbuds when I walk our dog, Casey, twice a day. I use wireless earbuds that have to be charged.


My favorite apps . . .  (This list created when I had my S4 Mini—some things have changed since I got my S9.) Do not disturb
  This is a setting on my Samsung phone that keeps telemarketers from calling me. You can have it set to only ring your phone from a call from someone in your contacts. Other calls go to voicemail without ringing your phone, and telemarkers typically do no leave messages. If someone you know calls that is not in your contacts hopefully they will leave a message and you can call them back. This is a great feature! You can find it in Settings under Sounds and Vibration. Be sure you have it set to allow calls from Contacts. Please beware that there is also a setting under this to silence media and alarms, which I discovered when I couldn't listen to music on my phone. The latest iPhones have a similar setting called "Silence Unknown Callers".

External battery charger  (This is not needed for my current S9, which has a stronger battery than the S4 Mini did.)
  A constant need with a smartphone is to keep the battery charged. I charge my phone overnight so it is always fully charged at the beginning of the day. When I had my S4 I also used a 10000mAh external battery charger that had a short chord that was plugged into the phone. The S4 had a 1900mAh battery so this was basically a battery that was 5 times bigger hooked up to the phone. I haven't needed that with the S9 but I might still use it on a cross-country plane trip.

Anker PowerCore 10000   (size about 2½ x 3½ inches)

Tips  (Mostly written when I had the S4 Mini so not all relevant anymore.)
  There seem to be apps for everything now. When we had a frozen harbor in Winter 2015 and the commuter ferries were not running I took the commuter rail. To pay for parking I used an app associated with my credit card instead of having to stuff 4 dollar bills into the slot for my parking spot. (I pay for parking by the month at the boat in a private parking lot, but the MBTA lot also uses this dialup app.) You can get airline boarding passes sent to your phone which get scanned at the airport. In Boston (my town) the MBTA (local transit system) has made the passes that previously only came on plastic cards available for smartphones in this fashion. Certain businesses, like Starbucks, that use cards to scan for purchases now offer apps that do this and you don't have to pull a card out of your wallet every time. I anticipate more and more things coming this way.

There are many websites with good smartphone tips like how to maximize your battery, or using the Cloud, so I won't list those here, but here are some things I do on my phone.

 

Supposedly smartphones manage memory in efficient ways and like to have frequently used apps (meaning the last app you used) running in the background so they can start up faster, but my preference is to kill apps when I am not using them so they don't use up memory. The way to do this is on my Android (iPhones have a similar method):

Ringtones
  Some notifications require setting a ringtone—but when I don't want to hear my phone ring I use a silent ringtone, silent.wav. For instance, I use this on Gmail, where I still get an icon in the Notification bar for new email but the phone doesn't audibly ring. For text messages, I get a notification icon and the ringtone on my phone is the little iPhone SMS chirp.
Android vs. iPhone
  I have had 3 Androids and never owned an iPhone, so I am not entirely familiar with the iPhone, but I have noticed things that I definitely like better about the Android.
      Homescreen The iPhone homescreen looks very busy (I see people scrolling for apps all the time), while the Android homescreen is very simple and easy to manage. On an iPhone it appears that every installed app has an icon on the homescreen(s), but on the Android you only have homescreen icons for things you want there. All installed apps are in the "Apps" folder and you can add any of them to one of the homescreen panels, or remove them from the Homescreen without uninstalling the app.
      Replaceable battery My S4 Mini had a replaceable battery but my current S9 doesn't (and doesn't need it)..
One of the best features of the Android phone is the replaceable battery. I keep a spare battery fully-charged in a battery charger, so I can swap batteries whenever my battery is low. When I travel I have an external battery pack to recharge my phone, or I use the available electrical outlets in many terminals, and more planes are putting USB ports at every seat.
      Universal buttons My S9 phone still has these buttons but they are different from what I am describing here. (I really miss the Menu button!)
My Android phone has 2 touch-sensitive buttons below the viewable screen, on either side of the Home button, which are hidden until you press on the phone where they are located. There is a Menu button on the left and a Cancel button on the right. These buttons work in pretty much every app on the phone. Press Menu and you get the app's menu, press Cancel and you go to the previous screen, either in the app or it closes the app if you are on the first screen. I have become so dependent on these that when I am on someone's iPhone I tend to press in these places for that functionality that I am used to on my phone, only to discover that the iPhone does not have these features.
Backing up
  I want my contacts, photos, and music to be backed up so they are available should I ever get a new phone. You can back things up to the cloud, for instance your Google drive, but here is what I do:
    Contacts When I enter a new contact it is associated with my Gmail account and automatically backed up to the Google server (so I guess it is on the Cloud).
    Photos I have my photos in albums so I copy these to my PC.
    Music All my music is on my PC in iTunes so I can reload it from there.

Listening to music
  I listen to music using earbuds that I always have with me.
  I'm really enjoying a present from Patti, a Bluetooth cap that enables me to listen to music off my phone without earbud wires connecting to my phone in my pocket. Because this is a knit cap I guess this is only a cold weather option.


Where I stand "I want to stay as close to the edge as I can without going over. Out on the edge you see all kinds of things you can't see from the center."  — Kurt Vonnegut
  I'm a liberal and I love this Facebook posting...

"What did liberals do that was so offensive to the Republican Party? I'll tell you what they did.
Liberals got women the right to vote.
Liberals got African-Americans the right to vote.
Liberals created Social Security and lifted millions of elderly people out of poverty.
Liberals ended segregation.
Liberals passed the Civil Rights Act, the Voting Rights Act.
Liberals created Medicare.
Liberals passed the Clean Air Act, the Clean Water Act.
What did Conservatives do?   They opposed them on every one of those things—every one!

So when you try to hurl that label ('Liberal') at my feet, as if it were something to be ashamed of, something dirty, something to run away from...
    it won't work, because I will pick up that label and I will wear it as a badge of honor.

I was born in 1948 (I'm a baby-boomer) and I was raised in a household similar to the one I raised my kids in, where my parents taught me values that I retain to this day. My parents were both college graduates (Dad was a banker, Mom was a teacher) and during WWII my dad would not carry a gun and was a non-combatent in the Army medical corps. In my childhood home my dad (who had gone to Stanford law school but became a banker) subscribed to The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and the New Yorker magazine so I grew up with a much broader view of life than what was happening in the small town we lived in. The Treasure Valley has a very large Japanese population, probably resulting from internment camps in WWII, and in the 1950s my father quit (or refused to join) the local Elks club because they wouldn't allow Japanese to join. In our very conservative community my dad stood out as a liberal rebel and I proudly inherited that trait. I will always remember the impression that was made on me when my mother was out of town (at her father's funeral in California) and my dad took us to see Gregory Peck in "To Kill a Mockingbird," Harper Lee's story of bravery and justice in small-town America, and I have hopefully passed these values on to our sons—values like integrity and charity, and a desire to participate in a kinder and gentler world, and to help create a more humane and just society. I was raised in a very non-violent household and even though I played sports like football in high school I have always lived a very non-violent life amd take a non-violent stand on all issues.

During WWII my dad was in the army like everybody else's dad, but he was in the medical corp where he wouldn't have to carry a rifle. We had some old army stuff that I played around with as a kid and I assumed his wartime experiences were like all the other dads. Later when I realized he had non-violence views like I did I got more respect for him. We didn't go hunting like other families I knew did and he didn't preach non-violence but we lived that way.

Both of our sons have graduated from college and are doing good things with their lives. Alex has a Master's degree and is a college teacher in New York City. Ben graduated in Computer Science and worked for Twitter as a programmer in San Francisco for 4 years, then lived in New York City and still worked as a programmer, and then moved to Taiwan. We are proud parents! Both boys have traveled around the world many times and lived abroad. I'm just glad neither of them had to deal with the draft as I did.

Coming of age in the 1960s civil rights have always been very important to me. When I evaluate a candidate who is running for public office, the first thing I look at is his stance on social issues like women's rights and gay rights. If the candidate fails on those I don't care what his positions are on everything else, he will never get my vote.
 

    Draft resistance
  I lived in Seattle in the late 60s and because I wasn't going to college and had lost my 2-S student-deferment draft classification (this was during the Vietnam War) I got drafted in 1969, and because of my beliefs (I was very anti-war!) I was a draft resister.
That was my reputation for awhile.
 

    Political Compass
  I took this Political Compass test (a brief explanation) and the results show me as "Libertarian-Left", meaning I believe in social freedom and some economic regulation.
Not surprisingly, I am at the exact opposite setting on the compass to George W. Bush and Donald Trump.
 

    Guns
  I think guns are a horrible thing and have no place in our civilization. I am opposed to them being used for anything! I hate to admit it but when I was a teenager I belonged to the NRA. We used to go down in the basement of the Bancroft Hotel in my hometown, Payette, Idaho, and shoot rifles at targets. I think this was just a teenage thing and it didn't last—it was mosly an excuse to go out in the evening and do something. I have never owned a gun and don't think I have ever known anybody who did. My friends used to go hunting with their fathers so perhaps they did. I never went. I don't want guns to be in my life.

I was totally shocked when Kyle Rittenhouse was acquitted. Give me a break! This guy showed up at a rally and killed 2 people with an illegal gun.
 







Yay! Bush is Gone! (And so is Trump!)
A monument has been erected in Iraq to honor the journalist who threw his shoes at Bush.
This was created after I removed this section and I thought it deserved its place of honor here.


  Rants "People who think they know everything are annoying to those of us who do." — Isaac Asimov
  So far I've said where I stand on some of the important issues of the day. Here are some things that may be less important, but they are still annoying.  
 


  Disclaimer
 
If I sound very opinionated it may be because I grew up in the 60s, the era of the Free Speech Movement, when it was considered pretty normal to express yourself openly.

 1 Some articles have links that expire too quickly so I save them offline.


Contact me
  To guard against spambots that search webpages for email addresses I am not spelling out any complete email addresses contiguously anywhere on my website.
Replace (at) with @ in the following email addresses to use in email.

My email address:
   ericpence(at)gmail.com

My cell phone number:
   617-750-4728

My home phone number:
   781-740-1414

Patti's email address:
   pattirosenfield(at)gmail.com

I have stopped listing our penceland.com email addresses, and while they are still valid, we'd prefer you use our Gmail addresses (and the old addresses don't get checked anymore).

If you try to email me for the first time and I appear to be ignoring you, I apologize. It may be that since your email address is unknown to me my spam filters are perceiving you as a spammer and preventing your email from getting into my Inbox. The easiest way to make sure I see your email is to put certain words in the subject line that I accept as something that a friendly stranger would say to me. These include,

    music, tennis, payette, hingham, boston, penceland, PHS, ipod, boat, ascii

Any of these words in the subject will trigger my Inbox to accept your email.



Living tips
  Here are a few things I have learned how to do that I want to pass on. They may seem rather silly but they work(ed?) for me.

  • Peeling a hard-boiled egg
    After the egg has boiled let it sit in cold water for a minute before peeling. This usually makes the shell not stick to the egg.

  • Popping all the kernels when making popcorn in a pan on a stove
    Follow these steps to pre-cook the kernels . . .
    1. Put the popcorn into the cold oil in the pan.
    2. Turn on the burner.
    3. When the first kernels pop, take the pan off the heat and let the kernels sit in the hot oil for 1 minute.
      - this pre-cooks them so they pop more easily
    4. Then just put the pan back on the heat and make the popcorn as you normally would.

  • Curing hiccups
    This technique sounds like an old wives' tale but it works 100% of the time for me.
    • Sit with your arms unsupported and point your two index fingers at each other about 6 inches in front of your face.
    • Keep your fingertips almost touching but not quite.
    • Hold this position for about 20-30 seconds and your hiccups will stop.
      (this may work because of the concentration required to keep your fingers so close but not touching)

  • Door won't stay open
    We have a door in our house that I wanted to stay open after I opened it, but it kept slowly gliding closed, from weight I guess. I Googled the problem thinking I'd find some mechanism for attaching it to the wall behind it or something when it was open, but someone had an excellent solution. Take the pins out of the hinges, bend them slightly, and put them back in. Now the door opens and closes easily, but the pressure caused by the bent pins keeps the door from swinging closed automatically.
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